Thanksgiving Day, traditionally a time for sharing and gratitude, often finds itself teetering between celebration and family conflicts. Its proximity to the American elections risks turning conversations during the meal with friends and relatives into a political monologue that could spoil the entire day.
Numerous therapists have intervened to recommend avoiding contentious topics around the table. They warn that Thanksgiving Day can only be an opportunity to discuss political differences if done constructively, otherwise, it is better to focus on other conversations.
According to Dr. Sheri Meyers, the day should be “a moment to celebrate what unites us, not what divides us.” To avoid clashes, she advises declaring the holiday a “debate-free zone,” where participants should only focus on the meaning of the gathering.
Angela Caldwell, director of the Caldwell Family Institute in Los Angeles, California, shares a similar view and suggests asking guests in advance to avoid divisive topics to sidestep unnecessary conflicts.
Psychotherapist Danah Williams, however, emphasizes the importance of recognizing nuance. Seeing family members as “right” or “wrong” hardens positions and hinders dialogue. A more balanced approach, based on curiosity and empathy, can reduce conflicts and promote mutual understanding.
Ultimately, the experts suggest that each family should consider its own dynamics and the emotional resilience of its members. For some, these discussions can strengthen bonds; for others, they risk turning a celebration into an ideological battleground.
Regardless of the choice, the goal remains to promote gratitude and unity, as was intended by the tradition born in 1621, when, according to the narrative promoted by mainstream historians, the first English settlers, the Pilgrims who came on the Mayflower, celebrated a bountiful harvest with the help of the Native American Wampanoag tribe after a difficult first winter in America. However, this narrative of harmony with the indigenous people has also come under fire in recent decades and has itself become a point of contention around the Thanksgiving table and elsewhere.
